Relationships

It is said that a thought never written down and shared might as well have never existed at all (i'm sure I thoroughly butchered that quote...). And without the convenience of a pensieve (really shows what i've been reading lately, ay?), I shall have to settle with a blog entry.

I've been asked several times about my past and present ones, and what I look for, how I choose, and I realised that I haven't really thought about it much.

Throughout my past experiences, i've learned enough to have some things to look out for and consider first, so here are some principles I practice to avoid unhealthy relationships.

I avoid 'relationships' with people who are suffering from post-breakup syndrome (PBS). People who have PBS aren't really interested in you at all except for being a 'stand-in', if you will.
Placing oneself in such a position repeatedly and being used in such a way will earn you the dubious title of "tool", which most people will treat with the philosophy of, "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
Conversely, if i'm the one feeling the effects of PBS, I won't pursue any relationship until i've got my feelings and mind on the ground again.

Fickle-mindedness is another warning sign, unless its a very short term thing you're interested in, never a good type to get serious with.

If the girl is already involved, its also a no-go. "Do unto others", a maxim I remind myself whenever I face any situation where morals and self-interest come into conflict. I certainly won't react well to another guy trying to chase someone i'm with, especially if he's aware of the fact that she's attached. In any case, having a relationship with someone who'd change lovers like they change their sheets isn't something i'd do; some people might jump at the chance for a fling but that's not the way I roll.